Monday, May 16, 2016

What's your name?

Well. that's easy, right? Except when the first page of your mediation paperwork asks you, and you have to spend time thinking about whether you want to keep the name of your former husband, or revert back to a name that is full of love and trust and strength... but having a different name from the children?!

Is this a connection that I can let go of?
And if He is letting it go, can I hold on to it?  Will the kids even notice? Would I really tell people that I have changed my name? Or, for the schools, would I even notify them? Should I talk to the kids about this? Would this wound them, my asking? The thought that Mom might not have the same name? Would it make them feel more connected to their Dad than to me? (i know, i know, i know that is not so, but what am I staking my claim to, them? the name? what?)
Also, I happen to have the same name as my mother-in-law and now that, too, would be another severed connection.

What the fuck do I do, to answer the simplest of questions?

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