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Saturday, July 10, 2010

Is motherhood supremely boring?

Busy, yes. Nonstop action of the 'neccessary to take action to stop a bloodbath' sort. . . but, I do very distinctly recall being bored out of my mind when my first son was 11 months old. Bored out of my mind. all i did was watch him move from inanity exploration to inanity exploration and look thrilled or like he was pooping. . . or hungry.
and now, it is different, but the same.
more needs, different needs, but my job is judging the needs as to validity and moving forward from there. and i find it supremely boring sometimes. but it is nonstop boredom. non.stop.
and this is why i am looking forward to vacation. because i am going to be at a house which opens on sea grass and ocean. (sea. ocean. you guess...) and i am not tending to any needs beyond food and sunblock and respiration. (no underwater adventurers yet)
think of the colors we are about to see.
and forget about the dragon pinata.
thats kidsplay.
we are on it.
i am off it.
you will miss me terrribly and i am sure i will find some way to tickle the keypad while i am away so fret publicly, so that i know there is a reason to write beyond george michael's untouchability and the wierdly borderlandish/ to wall or to welcome? / space between my inner and outer worlds...

4 comments:

The Maven said...

OOooh, vacation. That sounds lovely. I could go for a vacation. Right now, however, when I bring my kids anywhere but home, it's just extra work. I call it "foreign chaos" and should get paid double what I do - what's twice the amount of zero, again?

Motherhood can be very, very boring. I think you described it perfectly. In the paid work world, I don't know a lot of people who can do the same job in and out for years and years. They often get promotions. My promotion is when we move from diapers to pee puddles on the floor. And I get a raise, too! ... Whats' 3.8% of zero again?

Anonymous said...

I don't find it boring actually, but then I work some & have the working mother guilt thing. But I did stay home with my first & wasn't bored then either... I ask, what was everyone who complains abt motherhood expecting? And why when we spend time/interact with our kids it is so acceptable & agreed to say it's boring, but we rarely if ever say the same abt any other human being we spend time with. It's a priveledge. It's a relationship, too, & like all relationships it's pretty exciting. I'm just dismayed I guess at how unhappy so many mothers who write blogs/articles/etc seem. Somethings wrong here, I don't know what it is...

Anonymous said...

The thing that I really identify with WifeMotherExpletive is that she ISN'T bitching and moaning about Motherhood nor is she pretending like it is all fucking awesome. She is a REAL woman... navigating, negotiating, and revealing her truth in the archetype Mother. Whoever says "this journey" is easy and uncomplicated is simply in denial. It is SUPPOSED to be hard- go read Buddha...
So, Thank You for your voice WifeMother. You are perfect in your imperfection and that is the reality of it.

wifemotherexpletive said...

well, i don't think ALL mothering is boring, nor all the moments boring, but i don't have that natural ability to focus on the inner world of a two year old for very long. . . and I DO think many adults are boring, and i Do say so, although i usually don't tell the bore because i don't want to hurt them unneccesarily as I might be wrong about them down the line... i do agree, many young mothers are unhappy in their tasks, but that may be another post, another day...